16 Truths No One Tells You About an LDR

It’s officially been two years and some change, since Alex and I first started dating long distance. There have been tears, laughter, and lots of plane tickets along the way. I’ve learned a few things  and thought it would be a good idea to start the 2016 year off sharing 16 (great and not-so-great), truths about long distance relationships.

1. You have a relationship with your phone.


The only way to really spend time together is via phone and/or video chat. Hearing your phone ring or vibrate brings excitement because it may just be your boo calling.

2. Visiting can be complicated and costly.


Whether you commute via plane, train, bus, or car, the cost of visiting each other starts to add up. We buy our tickets ahead of time and use mileage points, but it still ain’t free!

3. It can be REALLY awkward when you visit each other the first few times

touch you

To be honest, as much you may connect over the phone and video chat, the first few times your in person it may feel kinda weird. The first time I visited Chicago was AWKWARD. I wasn’t used to having to interact with Alex in person, but after the first hour it felt natural and fun.


4. Sadness sucker punches you in the gut during Holidays and/or your Anniversary if you’re not together.

valentines day sad

Special days and Holidays are often the hardest times to spend apart! Gifts, phone calls, love letters etc.. are awesome, but nothing can truly replace the time spent in person.

5. Spend time together creatively…no matter how corny it feels.

time together

There’s so much you can do besides just talk on the phone. Don’t let the distance limit you. Play games online, cook a recipe together, watch Netflix, there are so many possibilities!

6. Eventually you get tired of trying to be on fleek every time you Skype

made up


In the beginning, I always had on nice outfits and makeup on when I Skyped. My boyfriend once got irritated because I  refused to FaceTime him while I was styling my hair. Eventually I got more comfortable. Some of my friends would say too comfortable. Some days I’m dressed up while video chatting, other days I’m deep conditioning my hair with a shower cap on my head 🙂

7. Sometimes you run out of things to say on the phone

on words on the phone

It’s totally normal to run out of things to say on the phone. There’s only so much that happened in your day. This is when playing a game or listening to a podcast together comes in handy.

8. Long distance doesn’t get easier…it gets harder

being apart

Contrary to popular belief you never truly get used to being apart form the person, you just learn to cope. The more you fall in love with the person the harder it is to live miles and miles apart. Which is why #9 is so important.

9. Setting short and long term goals is a Must!

relationship goals

Figure out early on what are your mutual hopes and desires for the relationship. How often do you want to visit each other? When do you hope to close the distance?

10. Seeing each other after weeks/months of not being together never loses its excitement.


This is how you will feel on the inside and possibly the out…

11. The time difference can really kick your tuckus.


Finding time to spend together is challenging but totally doable. You can even schedule time together and share a calendar via Google.

12. Arguing over the distance REALLY sucks.


When you’re in a close distance relationship you can argue like the picture above. However, long distance looks more like the one below….

arguing log distnace

13. You have no sympathy for close distance couples that randomly have to go a week or so without seeing their boo.

close distance

Need I say more? Your empathy for close distance couples temporarily separating is non-existent.

14. Even if you’ve been dating over a yr, some people will give you the side eye when you tell them you’re in an LDR.

fake relationship

Some people will just never understand and that’s OK. You know your relationship is great and that’s what matters most

15. A bad internet connection feels like the devil in disguise.


It’s terribly frustrating when you haven’t gotten to talk all day and when you finally can the internet starts acting up!

When you really love someone it’s so worth it!


When you really love someone and you both put in the effort to make it work, it’s worth all the bad internet connection, dropped calls, time apart, cost of travel, and lonely Valentines Day’s. Keep striving towards your goals and growing as a couple. The distance is only temporary…

Inspired by: Support

About Christina Michelle

Christina Michelle is a blogger, special education teacher, and spoken word artist. She loves to write about the joys and misadventures of newlywed life. When shes not writing or teaching, she's exploring new things in the city with her husband and friends.
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18 Responses to 16 Truths No One Tells You About an LDR

  1. andy1076 says:

    There is SO much truth to this, I’ve been in so many LDR’s and sadly most have fizzed out or they move on to someone else, who they actually end up marrying. But, Indeed it’s worth it every time because you just never know, when you will TRULY be with the one.

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  2. lolol you had some great gifs to go with your points 🙂 Good stuff!

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  3. Sarah says:

    This definitely gave me a few giggles! So relatable haha

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  4. this is all so true and I loved reading it, my boyfriend stays really far away


  5. DanWerkhoven says:

    Ah-hahaha, #13 cracked me up. I remember responding to one guy almost exactly like that because he was complaining that he missed his girlfriend who had just gone home for the night an hour before. And I raged out because of #15 maaaaany times. Great post, so much truth in it!


  6. The Fat Kat says:

    God! I laughed so hard! HAHAHA! I loved the gifs you chose. So on point!

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  7. DanWerkhoven says:

    Reblogged this on Dan Van Werkhoven and commented:
    Mix it up Monday! The time of the week where I share a great post by a fellow LDR blogger. Today’s post had my wife and I crying with laughter. So many great truths about LDRs. Enjoy!

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  8. MoZaic Star says:

    LOL yes this is true especially when technology will not work properly

    Liked by 1 person

  9. ldrdiaries says:

    All of these are 100% on point! #13 is definitely my favorite, love the gifs you used! Great post 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

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